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Uncategorized Thursday, October 14th 2010 at 12:55 pm

Research Suggests Nice Guys Get Girls, Nice Guys Remain Skeptical

A new study published in the British Journal of Psychology suggests that, contrary to the popular saying, nice guys finish first, and actually do quite well with the fairer sex.

How many nice guys reading this just groaned?

A common saying amongst nice guys is “girls like jerks,” but a certain study attempts to suggest otherwise.

Dr. Tim Phillips of the University of Nottingham and Institute of Psychiatry in London and colleagues take a more logical approach to a theory that is essentially discussing love, a very illogical concept:

“The expansion of the human brain would have greatly increased the cost of raising children so it would have been important for our ancestors to choose mates both willing and able to be good, long-term parents…Displays of altruism could well have provided accurate clues to this and so led to a link between human altruism and sexual selection.”

Sure, their logic make sense, but we humans don’t always adhere to logic: Smoking is an illogical act for humans too, considering it gives us cancer, but that sure doesn’t stop us from doing it.

Phillips’ study involved 70 identical and 87 non-identical pairs of female twins completing questionnaires regarding their level of altruism and what qualities they looked for in a mate. Analysis of the answers seemed to suggest that since the females were altruistic, and looked for altruistic mates, the altruistic behavior would be passed down through generations.

Aside from a probably large amount of nice guys saying otherwise, another hole in the theory is the questionnaire itself, in that whenever anything is self-reported, it needs to be handled with some skepticism, considering people aren’t generally too keen on painting themselves in a negative light.

The common theory is that nice guys tend to be more successful finding partners as the opposite gender matures and looks for a mate to settle down with, but just remember girls, nice guys may not be so nice after spending their youth dejected.

(via Telegraph.co.uk)

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  • surfacing

    The truth is nice guys make pre-judgements, and are not as confident. The jerks are confident so they get entangled in more relationships. Too bad the nice guys don’t realize all they need to do sometimes is simply make an approach, girls DO like nice guys, but most girls won’t chase after a ‘stand-offish’ sort of guy. We can’t read your minds, also smiling helps.

  • pjams

    I absolutely hate the theory that jerks get the girl. Whoever said that is probably a jerk. Not all girls have such low self esteem that makes them choose a guy who treats her like dirt, so why is this a surprise? I wish more guys would catch on to that fact. It’s so hard to find a nice boy these days :(

  • Mutt

    It’s not hard to find nice boys, pjams. It’s hard to be attracted to nice boys when there are so many “not so nice” people that press all the buttons that make a person go weak at the knees. It’s biology.

  • AkibaLime

    It *is* very hard to find a genuinely nice boy. There are many boys out there who think that just because they’ve done ONE nice thing, they deserve more gratitude than just a “thank you.” Then, when they don’t get the level of gratitude they feel they deserve, they get upset.

    Also, some of the actions that those “nice” guys take may be over the top for the girl’s taste and will make her feel uncomfortable which results in the “nice” guy being rejected.

  • James Plafke

    It is pretty difficult to find a nice guy, we’re all sitting at home on weekends by ourselves playing video games and watching Netflix because we gave up :P.

  • HellRaisin

    Of course girls like nice guys. They also like tall guys, and tall is WAAAAY better than nice.

    Girls can’t find a nice guy because niceness isn’t really their priority. A lot of it is subconscious.

    I shrug.

  • Koryu_Ninja

    @James Plafke It’s so, so true. I know that this study is not true, because of the sheer number of times that I’ve asked girls out and been turned down, and the percent of those girls who have dated total tools immediately, or soon after that. At this point, though it breaks my heart to do so, I’ve given up on finding someone. I’d rather focus on college now so when I become rich and famous I can laugh at them living in poverty with 4 children and an abusive father, if any father at all.

  • Susana Polo

    I’ve known my share of nice geek guys and dated a couple of them, and then eventually decided that I would indeed need to find a different nice geek guy. There are important attributes other than “nice” or “geeky,” you know. Like geography, religion, and *ahem* appetites.

    I consider myself lucky. The odds are in my favor. If I was a girl trying to find a nice geek girl, or a guy trying to find a nice geek guy, my options would be fewer, socially trickier, and, you know, not supported by my federal government.

    This is a study that goes against a broad generalization. Lets please try keep from making more broad generalizations about either gender down here.

  • Dlawrentis

    Koryu Ninja – I saw your comment about giving up on finding someone. You were in the
    most difficult game in the world here.Some girl from Russia,China or the Philippines
    will MAKE you see that the ‘game’ is not as HORRIBLE as it seems right now. Best wishes!

  • HS

    With my personal experiences i can say, Girls dont like nice guys, even if they approach them, they get nothing but a rejection.