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Uncategorized Monday, January 9th 2012 at 12:20 pm

Older Brother Sticks Up For Younger Brother’s Video Game Choices in Face of Abusive Father

It’s pretty rare when a life-affirming, heart warming story sneaks its way out of a major American retail chain. Especially GameStop. But this story from blogger and GameStop shift manager Kristen Wolfe might very well put a warm feeling in the deepest, darkest cockles of your heart. It’s about a young boy who wants to buy games with female protagonists, and a “girl color” controller. His father will hear nothing of it, threatening to “whoop” the boy if he doesn’t choose something manlier — then the young boy’s older brother steps in.

What’s really wonderful about this story is how it underlines one of the best qualities of geek culture: That it so celebrates non-conformity. The kind of people that revel in dressing up in strange costumes, or living in a way that some people just don’t care to understand. This kid wanted to be himself, and wanted to enjoy the things he liked.

While many will (hopefully) never have to endure such a degrading experience as he did, I think we can all agree that he’s a pretty awesome kid — and the brother, especially.

From Wolfe’s Tumblr:

Dear Customer who stuck up for his little brother,

you thought I didn’t really notice. But I did. I wanted to high-five you.

Yesterday I had a pair of brothers in my store. One was maybe between 15-17. He was a wrestler at the local high school. Kind of tall, stocky and handsome. He had a younger brother, who was maybe about 10-12 years old. The only way to describe him was scrawny, neat, and very clean for a boy his age. They were talking about finding a game for the younger one, and he was absolutely insisting it be one with a female character. I don’t know how many of y’all play games, but that isn’t exactly easy. Eventually, I helped the brothers pick a game called Mirror’s Edge. The youngest was pretty excited about the game, and then he specifically asked me.. “Do you have any girl color controllers?” I directed him to the only colored controllers we have which includes pink and purple ones. He grabbed the purple one, and informed me purple was his FAVORITE.

The boys had been taking awhile, so their father eventually comes in. He see’s the game, and the controller, and starts in on the youngest about how he needs to pick something different. Something more manly. Something with guns and fighting, and certainly not a purple controller. He tries to convince him to get the new Zombie game “Dead Island.” and the little boy just stands there repeating “Dad, this is what I want, ok?” Eventually it turns into a full blown argument complete with Dad threatening to whoop his son if he doesn’t choose different items.

That’s when big brother stepped in. He said to his Dad “It’s my money, it’s my gift to him, if it’s what he wants I’m getting it for him, and if your going to hit anyone for it, it’s going to be me.” Dad just gives his oldest son a strong stern stare down, and then leaves the store. Little brother is crying quietly, I walk over and ruffle his hair (yes this happened all in front of me.) I say “I’m a girl, and I like the color blue, and I like shooting games. There’s nothing wrong with what you like. Even if it’s different than what people think you should.” I smile, he smiles back (my heart melts!) Big brother then leans down, kisses little brother on the head, and says “Don’t worry dude.” They check out and leave, and all I can think is how awesome big brother is, how sweet little brother is, and how Dad ought to be ashamed for trying to make his son any other way.

(Kristen Wolfe via Twitter, image via ீ ๑ Adam)

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  • Dramstam

    Sounds made up.  I call BS.

  • Max Eddy

    Wolfe mostly blogs about everyday things, and has been doing so for a long time, so it seems unlikely to me that she just invented the story for no reason. She goes into some greater detail here: http://sweetupndown.tumblr.com/post/15385257095/answers-to-some-of-your-questions

  • http://profiles.google.com/joint.striker joint striker

    If it include a fatality I would also be inclined to think it was made up, since it doesn’t I’m just jealous of the big brother’s firm attitude.

  • Bob

    It is normal for a Dad to not want his kid to be feminine. Get over it

  • http://profiles.google.com/joint.striker joint striker

    Yeah. Get over it.

  • mark

    I don’t think you can whoop the gay out of the boy.  Pointless abuse is just bad parenting.

  • Matt

    Dad is in an idiot. Who cares if he likes that stuff. Let him be what he wants

  • Anonymous

    and threatening him with violence in a public place is the way to go about it?

  • Ben

    It’s normal for human beings to expect non abusive parenting. Get over it.

  • Sara Rae Rodgers

    I also don’t think you should assume someone is gay based on their  color preference…

  • Domingo

    That doesn’t make it right. 

  • BuffBeachBum

    Lots of behavior was seen as normal in the past from drunk driving to owning human beings. Society evolves.

  • Dr Coene

    “Common” is the word you’re looking for.

    Much like you.

  • Dr Coene

    It’s a big world, and this is not an unlikely event. I buy it.

  • Dr Coene

    Individuality rules.

  • Bob

    Creative writing at its best.

  • Jackbondnj16

    Agreed. It’s one thing for a kid to like the color purple, it’s another thing for him to specifically ask for a “girl color”. Even with the most liberal viewpoint, at the very least that kid shouldn’t be assigning gender values to his favorite colors.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Eric-Bazilio/100000132443742 Eric Bazilio

    It’s not normal, it’s prejudice.

  • Qwerty

    Fuck off.

    Thanks!
    Qwerty

  • The ODD God

    A lot of things that are completely morally wrong were once normal. Just because a good deal of fathers are worthless, homophobic assholes doesn’t mean we should ‘get over it.’

  • Flightrecorder

    A father threatened to beat his child and the author ‘melted’ when the kid smiled at her? Why in the world didn’t she take the initiative to call the police?

  • Jonny Magnum

    Where is that normal Bob? And where is it normal threatening to beat a child in public for not wanting something violent… Yeah… violently pushing violence on a 10 year old. That’s not normal and it’s not tolerable in the least, asshole. And since when is liking girls and the color purple a “feminine” thing? I truly hope for the day when people like Bob and this dad in the story are gone from the planet altogether. The only thing we should get over is your mentality.

  • Anonymous

    Colors are not feminine/masculine except that corporations want them to be used that way. Because it makes items less usable second hand…Can’t give the boy a hand me down from a girl, can’t give a girl a hand me down from a boy. Etc. 

    There’s an article worth reading called “On Liberty”, about being free of the prejudice and stupidity of others. You might want to read it. 

  • Boobinloob

    Ba-ba-ba-ba-buuuuuullllll-shit.  Gamestop is a horrible store that steals from customers.  Down with gamestop.

  • Donutz87

    Yeah cause ANY dad would be proud to have his son buying lady colored game controllers… Lmao

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ryan-Quavey-Havers/1593505278 Ryan ‘Quavey’ Havers

    Big brother is a hero. I love this story. Related, that kids going to love Mirror’s Edge. :3

    Purple is awesome!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Hannah-Paige-Woodard/100003224964929 Hannah Paige Woodard

    It might be “normal”, but that doesn’t make it okay. There’s no good reason for a father to try to redirect his son in this way except that he is embarrassed of him – which is selfish and not good parenting. And there’s no good reason for him to be embarrassed that his kid wants to play a certain kind of game with a certain color of controller! Besides, there’s nothing inherently “feminine” anyway about certain colors or certain styles of games.
    Major props to the big brother. Marry me? <3

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=627271186 Stuart Neilson

    I want my son to be happy, I don’t care if his feminine or
    masculine!

    It doesn’t harm anyone what he chooses to be, the harm comes
    from being forced to conform to a set of ideals that he’s not comfortable with.

    We all talk about free speech and the freedom of expression
    but are often all too quick to take that choice away from kids, no wonder so
    many feel like they can’t communicate with the older generations.

    I say good on this kid and his older brother!

  • Anonymous

    It is normal for kids to want different things. Get over it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Louis-Nel/653742055 Louis Nel

    I agree, I’d be extremely disappointed if my boy wanted girly stuff too.

  • Valinor

    If only there were more siblings like that :/

  • Anonymous

    Dad doesn’t really have a choice in the matter, other than ostracizing or accepting his son for who he is. I know which choice I’d make in that situation.

  • Anonymous

    Nah, you should want your kid to be happy, anyone with half a brain can see the Dad is being a total douche and will have a poor relationship with his son because of it. You only get one family and everyone dies, don’t be stupid. 

  • Rachel Gitlevich

     Its normal, but there’s a difference between being an ass about it and dealing with it in a different way. Threatening to “whoop” or beat your kid because of a controller color? That’s just egoism, fear, and ignorance. And since when was dark purple a non manly color?

  • Rhodiumcobalt

    There are a lot of normal things in this world that are not healthy or productive, such as enforcing gender stereotypes on our children.

  • Whitetiger

    Another lame example of children disrespecting their elders. If I did this to my dad I’d see his backhand. That’s the problem with your society today children yelling abuse when they need a good spanking.

  • Daniel Ferreira

    That little kid is probably wishing he had listened to his dad now that he realized Mirror’s Edge was a dumb choice.

  • Whispers-in-the-wind

    There are a lot of people in the world that think it dicusting to be anything else than straight and to dress in anything odd. I believe this story to be true and have of simular things on many occasion.

  • HeaveyMetalHeart

    He’s 10 years old most 10 year olds look at colours like yellow, pink and purple as “girls’ colours” and colours like black, green and red as “boys’ colours”

  • Stevin

    I have a friend who’s son was exactly like this and his father acted the same way.  Not only is it plausible, but this sort of thing happens EVERY day!! Grow up and get in touch with reality people!

  • HeyoBro

    Why are you an ass?

  • http://www.facebook.com/josh.bjornson Joshua A. Bjornson

    Yes, you are right, but who said the kid was gay?
    I’m not gay, and I would have probably pick the purple controller over all the others. And Mirrors Edge is an epic game!